Many people will tell you about the sorrow, anger, sadness, distraught, depression, and every other feeling that comes with the death of a loved one. What they ALL fail to mention are the new “Firsts” you will experience.
We all think about out first time as being about moments such as a kiss, sex, a first born child, first time away from home, or any other first that brought you to a new and exciting journey in life. We NEVER think about the “first” without them.
When you lose someone that is part of your daily existence, be it a significant other, a brother, sister, mother, father, or child, you open a new journey, filled with many new “Firsts”. These firsts, however will bring immense pain and sorrow to your life.
The first time you eat breakfast alone, the first Holiday without them, the first day they were not there to kiss you goodnight, the first time you cry without their comfort.
These are the reasons that people will tell you, “In time you will heal”. Once the firsts have all happened. These “First moments” will be like living in an alternate reality. One moment you are with your loved one, the next moment, it’s just you.
I encourage you, the next time you laugh or cry with someone you love, try to imagine what the first cry without them will feel like. If you can dig deep within you to bask in their present of life, when they are gone, the “Firsts” will be expected and the “Lasts” will LAST FOREVER.
Sereniti Sparkles 